Dear, Santa

On the 15th day of Christmas, I wrote this list as visions of love — not sugarplums — danced in my head.

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In no particular order:

1. Enhance my life just by being you.
2. Meet me where I am in life; treat me fairly. I have felt less-than in relationships before. I like it when you take the lead. I also like knowing that you respect me.
3. Intellectual stimulation; I love the way our brains work when we put them together, whether for a common goal or for play.
4. If you want to turn-on my body, I’ll (usually) enjoy it more if you go for my mind first.
5. Desire me? Let me know it. Any time is a great time to initiate some sort of touch.
6. Feel energized when you’re talking to me, or when you’re with me? Don’t be afraid to show it. My happiness increases when I know that I’m making you feel good.
7. Be curious. Ask me questions, even the hard ones. I love it when you take interest of your own volition. It turns me on when you want to, need to, know something.
8. Understand that, for me, companionship and partnership go hand-in-hand. I believe a lover should, and can be, a best friend.
9. Care for and about me. This includes communicating openly.
10. Know when the situation calls for emotional maturity and when playfulness is what I’m craving. In either case, make me smile.
11. Be supportive.
12. Make me feel safe. I’d like to know that, when I’m with you, I’m going to be okay.
13. Presence takes the form of face-to-face communication and virtual communication. No matter the method, presence is the greatest present. Look for the small ways-in. Even the littlest gesture says to me, “I am here.” (Hint: I love when you read my words).
14. Submarine races are self-explanatory.
15. Your smile. It makes my heart happy. See #6.
16. Just…….. love me.